Monday, October 16, 2006
His mother thinks I am too young to marry him
Dear Ammie
I am 18. I like a guy five years older to me. We love each other. He wants to marry me, but has to wait till I complete my studies. It would take me nearly five years to complete my academics. I told him he could talk to my parents. He is even ready to wait for me for five years but he is afraid that my parents might refuse the alliance. Further more, his mom is also against this match as she thinks I’m much younger to him. Please help me.
Dear NG
He’s 23, five years later he will be 28, a good age for a guy to get married. It’s not too late, so his family shouldn’t have an objection, unless they object to you. I think you are planning far too ahead at 18. This guy is probably your first love. How can you be sure, he’s The One? I have a theory. There are two sets of people. There are those who have their share of affairs before they get married and then settle down. Have affairs. Then there are others who marry the first guy who comes along and get married, and years later wonder if they made right decision. They, then have affairs to see what they’re missed. So be very sure before you decide this is the guy for you. Also, don’t make him wait for five years and then tell him that your parents are against the match. But if you know this is your happily-ever-after guy, then tell your parents about your plans now. Also, let him and his parents meet them, So there are no issues later on. All the best.
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Wednesday, October 11, 2006
I Am Too Confused About My Career And Future Plans
Dear Ammie
I am a 24-years-old girl. I am working in a reputed company . I wish to study further, but the problem is I don't have much finance to support my educations pursuits. My family is willing to help me but I don't want to burden them with my aspirations please tell me how do I plan my career so that I have sufficient finance for my future education and don't end up in desair.
DEAR XYZ
There are lots of philanthropsits who sponspor sholarships for students, there are organisations who do the same. You can apply for students loans. You don't have to be a burden on your family. And I'd say you shouldn't feel bad about allowing your family to finance your academics, if they can. A sound education will help you to make a better future for yourself and your family. You can pay them back when you are in a position to do so. Study sincerely and you will have the best of jobs linig up. And money will never be a problem. If you want to be selfreliant, you can also take up a part-time job if it won't interfer with your study time and start saving up. If you are good in studies, you could also tutoryour frinds and make some cash. All the best...
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Tuesday, October 10, 2006
We Patched Up again But He Isn't Ready To Commit
Dear AmmieI am going around with my chidhood friends.we had a break up, I was the one to patch up again but he isn't reddy to commit. He says he can't go again his parents' wishes. He loves me, no dout. We are physically intimate too. I know he won't marry me at any cost. My problem is like every crazy lover I love him a lot but he isn't aware of my felings. I have loved him without any expectations. I can't even thinks of losing him in my dream too please help...
Dear Payal
You cannot push a guy into committing. if he isn't ready, he isn't ready. But at the same time, you cannot wait endlessly. So have a chat with him. Ask him to give you a time period when he will be ready to commit. Whether it is six moths, one year or two years. And if you are willing to wait for that long, and tou trush his word, then you can you have a future with him. But if he says that he cannot even tell you when he will be ready to make it official with you , I think he is not serious about the relationship and you soner you accept that, the better for you. You cannot live by love alone . You say you are scared to even think of life without him, it just sticking around will not ensure that you might not find yourself alone someday. What if three years down the line he says that he doesn't want to marry you? You will feel worse because you didn't have that talk with him. There are no guarantees that he will be in yours life forever, even if you get a ring from him or even after "I do."Have faith in yourself. And believe that you will bounce back from whatever bad things happen in your life.Hope for the best but be prepred for the worst...
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